A year ago, i approached someone i admire and asked that person to become my mentor And he said “yes!” But a year into the relationship, those monthly mentoring conversations don’t seem to invigorate me like they used to, and aren’t quite as energizing for him, either. In short, i suspect the mentorship may have run its course. i need some help to prepare ahead of every mentoring conversation that will keep things interesting – and valuable – for me and my mentor.
I think its a good idea to have many mentors. If you are not getting what you want from one, check with another. I use many mentors.
When I have a struggle, I ask more than one. I take all the information I receive and I assimilate into ideas and a plan that works for me. I might use one mentors ideas on one struggle and another’s ideas on a different struggle. But I check both struggles with both mentors.
If you plan and structure your mentor sessions, you might get more out of them. Take the time to plan your mentoring sessions. Write out 3 to 5 things you need help with. 3 to 5 things you want to learn. During the session and before it ends, write out 3 to 5 things you are committed to learning and/or growing in before your next session.
In the next session start discusssion with 3 to 5 things youcommitted to last meeting. Talk about what you learned or achieved since last meeting. Refer to the list you committed to but don’t limit yourself to that list alone. Share everything you learned since the last meeting with your mentor. Then go over what you want to learn and grow in again.
Your agenda looks like this:
- What I commited to last meeting.
- What I learned since last meeting.
- What I want help with now.
- What ‘Im committing to next.
Record or write down the agenda and minutes and make sure the mentor and mentee get a copy.
The Dominican University Study done by Dr. Gail Matthews on writing goals down proves that when we write down our goals and commit to reporting our progress to another person, we achieve our goals more than we would if we don’t write them down or report on our progress.
Give yourself every advantage that helps achieve goals. Write your goals down and report on your progress to your mentor on a consistent basis. I hope this helps. Mike Garska