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HI everyone. welcome to this quick , about 15-16 minute mentoring session from FindAMentor. I’m Mike Garska – the Founder. I’m going to share the two most important things I learned in life, that they don’t teach in school. They are about the Human Interaction Process and the Master key to Riches.
So, when I was in my twenties my wife asked me to take a communications and leadership workshop with her, She was told to take by the Family life Education council where she was a social worker and workshop facilitator. My most important take away from that training was what I call Human interaction process, or HIP. When I heard it, my 1st thought was why didn’t they teach me this in school, and since I’ve been teaching it, I’ve had students say the same thing to me. So, Why is it so important to know it? Because the HIP, the human interaction process affects every part of our life. We are social beings. That’s why. Here’s how I learned it. it was in that communications workshop. the facilitator had us read a book called alive and aware by Sherod Miller and 3 other authors, all phycologists. We had to learn a tool they call the awareness wheel. Its an awareness guide or tool for yourself, and a guide for awareness of others and its key to communicating through any difficult conversation. Its all about authentic self awareness and authentic awareness of others. I was taught, to obtain true self awareness I had to ask my self 5 questions in a wheel type format. 1. What did I just witness? What did I hear and see? 2. What Am I thinking? How do I perceive this situation? 3. What am I feeling? What emotions does this situation trigger in me? 4. What do I want and what don’t I want? What’s my intention? 5. How am I going to choose to respond, react or act? We were taught first to get fully aware of the exact situation that triggered the conflict and then to go around the awareness wheel in our minds, before speaking. What did I see and hear, how do I feel, what do I think about it and what do I want and don’t want. How am I going to respond? We were taught to share all of this with the other person, and at the same time, immediately find out about the other persons, senses, thoughts, emotions, intentions. We did exercises in groups. It really worked. I found this awareness technique for self and others worked in almost any situation to reduce conflict and resolve it. Now, to me, because every person goes through this process every time we communicate, I call this 5 step awareness wheel The Human Interaction Process. What’s your HIP right now. what are you hearing and seeing in this moment. me talking. right. yes. I’m seeing a camera. what do you feel. are you feeling curious? maybe not sure about all this stuff? I’m feeling a desire to share important information that I want you to learn so you can be and do better in life when communicating. I don’t want you to turn off this video. I don’t want you to be bored. What do you want right now? Do you want to learn more? What don’t you want? You probably don’t watch to waste your time. I don’t want you too either. We are both HIP ING all the time — It’s good to be aware, and it’s absolutely needed when situations are tough. So, A few months after learning this process and other tools and techniques on word choice, I found myself in a situation where I had to do a really tough talk with my boss. I was frustrated at work. I was an industrial salesperson. Co-workers were dropping the ball on deals. Customer expectations weren’t being met to my standards. Or sales manager was promoted to GM and we hadn’t had a sales manager for over 3 months. Things were falling through the cracks. I wanted to quit. I started looking for another job. Before I accepted one, I thought I should at least have a talk. I did what I was taught. I prepared. I wrote everything down. I got aware of my HIP and I was determined to find out what his HIP was in this situation. I was scared to do it, but needed a change or I was going to leave. I asked for a meeting. We went for dinner the next night. The conversation took two hours and at the end of it, I got a promotion to sales manager and a raise. I know if I hadn’t taken that course, The conversation would not have gone as well. Now Warren Buffet says. “If you want to be worth 50% more than you are right now, Hone your communication skills.” So do that. Take a difficult conversation communication course. Learn how to do those difficult conversations with confidence. We offer a quick mentoring session on difficult conversations. Watch that video. There’s a link at the bottom here. And you can sign up for our more in depth CONTACT 20-20 on-line course where we give you 120 tools, tips and techniques for navigating difficult crucial conversations using your HIP, and wise word choice, all in a best practice communication process. Take the time to learn CONTACT. You wont regret it. FAM members only pay 29.95, get lifetime access and a 30-day money back guarantee. What other thing can you spend $30 on that can get you a raise and a promotion? It’s the cost of a large pizza. Which one is a better investment for you? A pizza ort a conflict communications course? Remember that we have to invest time and money into ourselves, our skill set if we want to be more valuable to our employees and make more money. Do what Warren buffet says, hone your communication skills. Okay so the second thing I want to share with you that I never learned in school is all about thought and emotion regulation, control and direction and how it affects every aspect of our life and what levels of success we achieve in the different aspects. . Now, our success is immensely affected by how we control our HIP. When I learned the HIP, my immediate thought was, wow, this fits so well with the master key to riches. Its the master key to riches that I learned when I was 16 that I attribute to my successes in life. When I learned it, I actually got angry that they didn’t teach it to me in school. It’s was so important to understand. It should be taught in school as far as I’m concerned. So, I met a man named Ron that taught me about the Master Key to Riches by Napoleon Hill. Ron was my first real mentor to that point in my life, outside of family and extended family. He was a successful real estate agent driving a fancy car with a phone in it. And cell phones weren’t even out yet. It was the 1970’S. It was a old style push to talk, mobile phone and about 1 in every 10000 people had one. I was impressed by his success. I come from a family of 5 kids raised by a single mom working at Sears. We had very little. I wanted more so I wanted to learn more. I asked, he taught. he started by giving me books. the master key to riches by Napoleon Hill was the first. What do you think the Master Key to Riches is? The way Hill wrote the book, I had to read almost the whole thing before he revealed it? There are many other books that write the same thing in different words. Claude Bristol’s, the magic in belief. Josesph murphy’s Your infinite power to be rich, Og Mandino’s, the greatest miracle in the world. BTW, you and I are the greatest miracle in the world. I Wanted to understand more so read those other books, including a few more by Napoleon Hill. MY favorite was Grow rich with peace of mind and that has been a focus of mine since I was 17. Growing rich with peace of mind. I’ll share more about that in another video or mentor blog So what is the master Key to Riches? Well, it actually fits very well into this HIP Concept and taking responsibility for yourself and your responses. And when I learned the awareness wheel, my first thought was. This makes sense. I like it. I can fit this into my philosophy and belief system. its a great tool for helping to control ones thought and emotional patterns to be positive. So Here’s the master key to riches. are you ready. its simple: and unlike Hill, I’m not going to make you read a whole book to hear it. “Whatever the human mind can conceive and believe, it can achieve.” This is the master key to riches by Napoleon Hill. Whatever you can think about- conceive, and then believe, you can achieve. Just pay the price and take it away. Yes. You have to pay for everything in one way or another in life. And the price for achievement is specific thought and emotional control, combined with emotional persistence, perseverance and tons of other positive thought, emotion, and of course, action. The master key has also been explained as. What we think about, we bring about. it all starts with the power of positive thinking. The law of attraction will bring back what you put out so put out what you want. In the books they talk about different ways to achieve this ‘belief in yourself, so that you can achieve any goal you set out too. They advise using things like, Autosuggestion, repeating positive phrases over and over I used to post sticky notes all around the house and car. One was ‘live in the now’. Another one I used when I started my cell phone business from the trunk of my car, was. I’m selling a phone a day. Selling a phone a day. I actually made a tape that played it over and over that I would listen to as I was driving to sales calls. Eventually, we were selling a phone a day and then then 10 phones a day. We eventually had two of the top five performing stores in the country and hit number one a couple times. Other techniques the books suggested were visualization, feeling like you have it now, writing goals down, etc. Its all about disciplining thought and emotion and action and its all important to do. We have to control our thoughts to control our emotions, intentions and actions. When we consistently see things in a positive and constructive way, and generally feel positive, we can achieve anything, and we attract good things and good people, into our lives. . Sometimes it costs allot, Takes allot of work and effort, but we can do it. I embraced the concept and I’ve witnessed it work many times in my life and others. So to take advantage of the master key to riches, to be successful in any endeavor, you have to take control of your HIP in every situation and create ‘belief’ in yourself. Belief in what you’re doing. Belief that you can achieve your goals. You must control your responses and reactions to be productive and positive so you can build belief. With positive action we get positive outcome, and belief in self builds a bit each time. Does that make sense? Yes or yes. Well, a mentor can help with building belief in yourself too. They make it easier to achieve the little stepping stones that turn into milestones and that all builds belief in yourself and your abilities. That’s why I promote having many Mentors they help us adopt the right thought and emotional processes so we do the right actions for achievement in their area of expertise, so mentors help us take on those thought and emotional processes that build belief and attract success. Remember that emotions are contagious so Learn and catch the positive emotions and thoughts your mentors have. Incorporate them into your character. So, get a mentor. You might be wondering how do I get a mentor for business, or how to find mentors on-line, or how to find a mentor near me. FindAMentor can help you. Okay. let’s recap the two things I didn’t learn in school that have both changed my life dramatically. 1. Know your HIP, seek to understand it in yourself and others. Our HIP affects the strength of every relationship we have. Take our communications training to learn more about how to do that and what words to use and which ones to avoid in difficult conversations. Not knowing your HIP or the other person’s HIP, hinders the communication process and often makes things worse when situations are tense, difficult or sensitive. Knowing the HIPS is key to avoiding and resolving conflict. 2. Believe in yourself and your goals and do whatever it takes to get into that state of mind and state of mind and being, where the belief in yourself and your goals is entrenched in you. Know that our Self talk is as important as our talk to others. How we guide our HIP, our thoughts, emotions, intentions, actions, affect what we believe and attract into our life. It affects our health and our success on every level. Control your self talk to be positive. I had one friend say to me if we talked to others like we talk to ourselves when we’ve not done well at something, at times, we wouldn’t have any friends. People can be very hard on themselves in self talk. Watch out for that. Don’t do it. But, Take responsibility for your thoughts, emotions, intentions and belief in yourself. be responsible for every response you have, for disciplining the right thought and emotional habits for success – for you. I can help, mentors can help, but its up to you to ask for the support and then pay attention to the advice and do it. Take responsibility for your thoughts, emotions, intentions, actions and take control of your success. And remember each person’s HIP is as unique as our DNA. There are 8 billion different HIPS happening right now on this planet. Don’t expect others to respond like you do to any situation. The most important communication tip I can give you is to seek to understand first, then to be understood. It comes from Stephen Covey’s “7 habits of highly effective people.” There are 120 more tips and tools for best practice communicating in CONTACT 20-20. Start with our free communications training mentor session. And, Watch the other videos as they come out too. I’ll continue to give you tips and tools that will propel your success and your ability to believe in yourself, so that you can achieve anything. You’ll get more communications tips and eventually learn to communicate through any difficult conversation with the confidence of driving it to a win-win outcome. Sign up for our daily inspirational emails as well to keep yourself motivated every day. Thank you for watching. Go make it an awesome day.
